Dear Matt & Tamsen,
I think I am in the middle of a relationship build solely on texting! I met a guy on-line, but have yet to see him in person, all we do is text each other! What does it mean?
Beware of the species of males out there called “the kitchen mavens” a.k.a. “the non-closer.” These are men who talk the talk, or rather type the text, but certainly can’t walk the walk. They are satisfied with an interesting conversation and flirting, but for some reason can’t take it to the next level. A true man wants to hear what you have to say, but initially is more interested in how you look and in physically connecting. If a man isn’t in a hurry to get physical, or at least see you in person, beware, he isn’t that interested or he unfortunately may be one of the above mentioned creatures.
Here are some guidelines to reading between the lines, so you don’t waste time with what we call a “techno tease.”
For more advice on this sometime crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called? It in, my wife and I answer that age-old question, Why Hasn’t He Called? and provide all the answers you will ever need to navigate the crazy and confusing world of dating!
•If he doesn’t ask you out within ten text exchanges, you are getting down to the wire, and on the fast track to Friendship Lane.
•Any late night texts are feeble attempts to appear to be macho. Don’t respond until you see his moves in person.
•He has 10 days from the initial time you meet to CALL (not text). At that point, he must ask you out on a date.
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Sabrina,
Unless you want a pen pal, drop him fast.
There are so many men who would like to meet and date you.
Don’t cloud your mind and let a man like this take up space in your heart. He has nothing real to offer you. The is the best time of year to look for love. Move on to find the love you want and deserve!
I was in the same situation. After 3 weeks I stopped texting and IMing back. I’m not wasting my time on someone who cant step up to the plate.
I’ve been in a similar situation: Text, email and phone conversations for the past 6 months. He talks about it, but it never materializes and there are always excuses. We do have a little bit of distance between us ~400 miles, but really! I think it’s time to move on, thoughts?